Oddly, if you ever read a book on manners, you'll see that certain levels of hypocrisy are considered a virtue by our society. Of course, at least once he realized that his knee-jerk reaction was going to be difficult to carry out, he seems to have settled down. Of course, this does settle the question of why Guy's cousin is going out there: just another Terran ploy to take advantage of a perceived weakness, not necessarily direct agitation. Although of course the "hysterical" woman might also have been a planted agitator. Then again, she might just be someone prone to overreacting.