You (and others like you) are convinced that women are weak, pitiful creatures, that need your protection and guidance to prevent them from driving their car off a cliff while putting on their makeup,
But VAWA assumes that women are weak pitiful creatures that need protection from people like me, and I don't see you ranting about how bad VAWA is.
It is perfectly OK to allege large differences between men and women provided these differences make men look bad, or justify treating men worse than women. It is, however, totally unacceptable to allege large differences between men and women if these differences make women look bad, or justify treating a woman with less dignity than one would treat a man.
The outrage about the one, and the lack of outrage about the other, implies that those outraged feel that women are weak pitiful creatures who need protection, and indeed they are, but I think that dangerous thoughts are rather low on the list of things that they need protection from.
2005 Crime victimization survey:
Table 12, Victimization rates for persons age 12 and over, by
gender and marital status of victims and type of crime
Female married: Violence victimization rate 7.8%
Female divorced or separated Violence victimization rate 33.4%
Table 13: Victimization rates for persons age 12 and over, by
gender head of household, relationship of victims to head
and type of crime.
Female heads of households living with others
violence victimization rate 20.6%
Wife of a male head of household
violence victimization rate of 6.7%.
Female heads of households living with others
simple assault victimization rate 14.1%
Wife of a male head of household
simple assault victimization rate of 4.2%.
Female heads of households living with others:
rape/attempted rape victimization rate 1.8%
Wife of a male head of household:
rape/attempted rape victimization rate of 0.1%
VAWA reaches into relationships and attempts to break up couples that are politically incorrect in their inequality, but on the face of it, seems unlikely that this make women safer.