So the differences between men and women, you consider to be "glaringly obvious," turn out to be nothing more than statistical trends, correct?
Yes indeed.
In fact, when a woman walks into a room, your "glaringly obvious" assumptions about her are of little use in dealing with her as an individual, correct?
Incorrect. On most of the qualities listed, there is little overlap between men and women. For example, to a very good approximation, there are approximately zero competent female software engineers, apart from database management. If a female engineer walks into the room, you can safely assume she is an affirmative action hire who will need a male colleague to actually do her job. If you meet a female “firefighter”, you know she is actually a fiire watcher. How many female “firefighters” do you think got killed in 9/11? There are zero female firefighters, just as there are zero female software engineers, in the one case for lack of brains, in the other case for lack of guts.
The differences are greatest on matters related to reproduction, where the number of men who can bear children is statistically a bit on the low side, and as a result we have a huge problem with fatherless children, but no significant problem with motherless children. Because of this enormous disparity, treating husbands and wives equally as “spouses” leads to ludicrous results.
Another way to look at the problem is that marriage is a contract, and the terms of that contract should approximate supply and demand. Unfortunately it is an intimate long term contract, so the terms reflect social and coercive enforcement, rather than being readily negotiable.
Since the old contract where wives were supposed to “love honor and obey” did approximately balance supply and demand, we should be unsurprised if the new contract does not, possibly explaining the present very large levels of fatherlessness.
BTW, politics has to do with the distribution of power within a group. The issue of market anarchy is just as much a position on politics as atheism is a religious belief. Under the ZAP, there is no difference between men and women
And if A gets pregnant by B, and B throws her out, who is aggressing?
When it comes to family matters and family law, the Zero Aggression principle does not help.
("No one has a right to initiate force...") and the ZAP is what we were talking about in the anarchistic society of the Belt.
And is a shotgun marriage initiation of force? Is divorce initiation of force? Does the Zero Aggression Principle imply divorce at the whim of either party? If so, does it imply the same thing for other contracts? And if it does imply that, what about children and property?
One final note. You think men are braver than women?
How many female firefighters died in 9/11?
There simply is not much overlap between men and women. If a random male, and a random female walk into a room, you can be pretty sure which one is better at chopping wood. And you can be pretty sure which one is more willing to fight fires.
And you can be perfectly sure that one of them is not going to get knocked up by some random thug, so laws and customs that relate to that problem are quite definitely going to apply to women and only women, and not to “spouses” or “partners”.